Being a new Mom is one of the most rewarding experiences in the world. There is no joy like looking into the face of my sweet little one each and everyday. I am 13 weeks in at this point and I have already picked up on a few things that have helped with my transition into motherhood. Like most others I have received more advice than you can ever imagine on what to expect as a new Mom. While some of the advice was spot on, some had to be taken with a grain of salt. I have learned that each pregnancy, birth, and baby are completely different. There are things that may have worked for others that didn’t seem to work for me and there are things that work perfectly for me that doesn’t work well for others (thats life). I’ve been thinking about what I would want to tell my friends that may ask for my advice and I put together a list of the top six things that I think is important for new mothers to know.
1.)Don’t assume the worst. On the first few nights that we were home with our daughter I found myself analyzing each and every sound and movement that she made. My first thoughts were what does that mean, is something wrong, is she choking, can I hear her breathing, is she uncomfortable just to name a few. I literally drove myself insane and did not take advantage of my small allotment of sleep. If I could go back I would tell myself to take a deep breath. Instead of assuming bad things manifest positive things and you will feel a relief like no other. As a Mom and especially a new Mom you are going to be a worry wart but try not to entertain negative thoughts and instead stay attentive and surround you and your baby with nothing but love and positive vibes.
2.)Trust your instincts. You know what is best for you and your baby. Listen to your heart and always go with your gut feeling because 99% of time it is guiding you in the right direction. I spent so much time on google searching each and everything that I noticed. This only made matters worst as you know google will show you the worst of the worst. I would recommend that instead of looking to Dr. Google look at your baby try to feel their need. I have a mental checklist that I like to use with my little one. The first thing I check is if she needs to be changed, then I think about the last time she ate, next I try to burp her or rub her tummy to relieve any gas. Sometimes my baby only wants my love and attention so I shower her with lots of kisses and cuddles because at the end of the day who doesn’t want that! 🙂
3.) Breast milk is the cure to EVERYTHING. Like seriously if your baby has a mild case of baby acne, red spots or if the little one scratches themselves on the face just sprinkle a little breast milk on it and watch the miracle happen lol.
4.) Have no expectations. One of the best things about being a new Mommy is getting to know your little one and yourself in your new role. Appreciate the adventure and don’t expect your experience to be like anyone else’s.
5.) Enjoy the journey. Being a Mom is awesome therefore you are awesome so enjoy every minute of it!!!
6.) Ask for help when needed and accept help when it’s offered. You don’t have to be a super hero all of the time. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. We had so much help with our little one and it has made a world of difference for me especially.
I hope these tips are as helpful to you as they have been for me.